Saying Yes to Life’s Challenges
- Everything Changes and Ends
Our illusion that things will be fair, or that pain won’t happen to us, or that people will be trustworthy, is called into question by the situations we face in the course of our life.
- Things Do Not Always Go According to Plan
Being wise means living with life’s conditions in an allowing way.
- Life is Not Always Fair
A wise person knows that losses will happen sometimes, that unfair dealings will sometimes occur, and that he can survive them.
- Pain is Part of Life
Since life is a journey, we can grow not only by conquest of fear but also by occasional surrender to it.
- People Are Not Loving and Loyal All the Time
Love arises from our imperfection, from our being different and always in need of forgiveness, encouragement, and the missing half of ourselves that we are searching for.
The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them
Detaching from outcomes, those that apply to us and those that apply to the actions of others, is the surest way to a peaceful day. Trying is believing.
Let Go Now: Embrace Detachment as a Path to Freedom
Rewarding Way of Living
An intentional life is a commitment to training and concentrating attention in ways that enrich your life and the lives of others.
Living with attention is a rewarding way of living. It’s only by living with attention that you can experience yourself as authentic and your life as purposeful.
As you live more intentionally, something else occurs – the external world starts providing opportunities that you never imagined. This is because at every stage of development you can only imagine possibilities with your current knowledge base and world view.
Building Blocks of Intentional Living
Intentionally bringing consciousness to events. With increased awareness, you are an alert observer of your thoughts and feelings as they are happening.
Requires practice in more directly noticing your experience, which allows it to more meaningfully impact you. Helps you think more creatively, make better choices, and implement effective action.
Making choices to bring greater conscious awareness to your decisions so you experience greater possibility to envision concrete steps toward big dreams.
To wisely develop skills in knowing how and when to act in order to build the kind of world you want to see. And, knowing when to persist and when to move on.
The more you allow, by letting go of unnecessary clutter that interrupts your experience, the more possibilities exist. Allowing can initially feel passive, but it is actually very active.
Lisa Kentgen, PhD
Characteristics of Mindful Love
Attention to the present moment – observing, listening, and noticing feelings experienced in our relationships.
Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
Appreciation of our gifts, limits, and longings.
Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
Allowing life and love to be as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Literature Is About Seeing
The goal of literature is to enable us to see our own limitlessness in the life of another. As such, literature might be thought of as the imaginative extension of compassion, procured by detailed, painstaking methods. The enormous success of this art form speaks volumes about the strength of our desire to see.
Paradox of Fiction
The paradox of fiction has befuddled philosophers – how can we become emotionally invested in characters we know, beyond a shadow of doubt, do not exist? Our emotional attachment is clear, as a great novel can alter our mood for days, or longer. It might even “change our life”.
We endure fictional characters. We care about what happens to them. And we know, all the while, that these characters are not real. No one knows why this is so. Attempts to solve the paradox of fiction have been problematic. Literature can draw us so deeply into paradox because it exploits the ability to see ourself in the other.
A Good Life: Philosophy from Cradle to Grave