The Wisdom Of Embracing Life’s Challenges

Intentional Living

Saying Yes to Life’s Challenges

  • Everything Changes and Ends
    Our illusion that things will be fair, or that pain won’t happen to us, or that people will be trustworthy, is called into question by the situations we face in the course of our life.
  • Things Do Not Always Go According to Plan
    Being wise means living with life’s conditions in an allowing way.
  • Life is Not Always Fair
    A wise person knows that losses will happen sometimes, that unfair dealings will sometimes occur, and that he can survive them.
  • Pain is Part of Life
    Since life is a journey, we can grow not only by conquest of fear but also by occasional surrender to it.
  • People Are Not Loving and Loyal All the Time
    Love arises from our imperfection, from our being different and always in need of forgiveness, encouragement, and the missing half of ourselves that we are searching for.

Five Things We Cannot Change
The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

David Richo

What’s The Benefit Of Detaching From Outcomes?

Letting Go

Letting Go

Detaching from outcomes, those that apply to us and those that apply to the actions of others, is the surest way to a peaceful day. Trying is believing.

Let Go Now
Let Go Now: Embrace Detachment as a Path to Freedom

Karen Casey

What Are The Benefits Of Intentional Living?

Intentional Living

Rewarding Way of Living

An intentional life is a commitment to training and concentrating attention in ways that enrich your life and the lives of others.

Living with attention is a rewarding way of living. It’s only by living with attention that you can experience yourself as authentic and your life as purposeful.

As you live more intentionally, something else occurs – the external world starts providing opportunities that you never imagined. This is because at every stage of development you can only imagine possibilities with your current knowledge base and world view.

Building Blocks of Intentional Living

  • Awareness
    Intentionally bringing consciousness to events. With increased awareness, you are an alert observer of your thoughts and feelings as they are happening.
  • Reflecting
    Requires practice in more directly noticing your experience, which allows it to more meaningfully impact you. Helps you think more creatively, make better choices, and implement effective action.
  • Choosing
    Making choices to bring greater conscious awareness to your decisions so you experience greater possibility to envision concrete steps toward big dreams.
  • Acting
    To wisely develop skills in knowing how and when to act in order to build the kind of world you want to see. And, knowing when to persist and when to move on.
  • Allowing
    The more you allow, by letting go of unnecessary clutter that interrupts your experience, the more possibilities exist. Allowing can initially feel passive, but it is actually very active.

An Intentional Life
An Intentional Life: Five Foundations of Authenticity and Purpose

Lisa Kentgen, PhD

 

What Are The Keys To Mindful Love?

Mindful Loving

Characteristics of Mindful Love

  • Attention
    Attention to the present moment – observing, listening, and noticing feelings experienced in our relationships.
  • Acceptance
    Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
  • Appreciation
    Appreciation of our gifts, limits, and longings.
  • Affection
    Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
  • Allowing
    Allowing life and love to be as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
David Richo

What Is The Goal Of Literature?

Literature

Literature Is About Seeing

The goal of literature is to enable us to see our own limitlessness in the life of another. As such, literature might be thought of as the imaginative extension of compassion, procured by detailed, painstaking methods. The enormous success of this art form speaks volumes about the strength of our desire to see.

Paradox of Fiction

The paradox of fiction has befuddled philosophers – how can we become emotionally invested in characters we know, beyond a shadow of doubt, do not exist? Our emotional attachment is clear, as a great novel can alter our mood for days, or longer. It might even “change our life”.

We endure fictional characters. We care about what happens to them. And we know, all the while, that these characters are not real. No one knows why this is so. Attempts to solve the paradox of fiction have been problematic. Literature can draw us so deeply into paradox because it exploits the ability to see ourself in the other.

A Good Life
A Good Life: Philosophy from Cradle to Grave

Mark Rowlands