The Give And Take Of Friendship

Friendship

Support and Sharing

We must take advantage of support and sharing in a mutually beneficial way. Whenever we take from another, we should try to give back something. Friends should walk side by side for as long as their journey lasts, without becoming dependent upon one another.

Helping Without Expectation

If you can help someone do something, then you should do so without any hesitation or expectation of reward or debt. If there is something that you need to learn and your companion can show it to you, then you should accept it in humility.

Transience of Life

All encounters have a beginning and end. Transience is what gives life poignancy. Every person is responsible for himself or herself. There is no road to walk but your own.

365 Tao: Daily Meditations
365 Tao: Daily Meditations

Deng Ming-Dao

 

 


Deng Ming-Dao
Deng Ming-Dao

Deng Ming-Dao is a prolific author. His books have been translated into fifteen languages. He studied qigong, philosophy, meditation, and internal martial arts with Taoist master Kwan Saihung for thirteen years.

Books Deng Ming-Dao has written include:

How Can We Develop Mental Strength?

Mentally Strong

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

  1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself.
  2. Don’t give away your power.
  3. Don’t shy away from change.
  4. Don’t focus on things you can’t control.
  5. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
  6. Don’t fear taking calculated risks.
  7. Don’t dwell on the past.
  8. Don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
  9. Don’t resent other people’s success.
  10. Don’t give up after the first failure.
  11. Don’t fear alone time.
  12. Don’t feel the world owes you anything.
  13. Don’t expect immediate results.

Getting rid of these 13 habits will help us develop mental strength, which is essential to dealing with all of life’s problems – big or small.

No matter what our goals are, we’ll be better equipped to reach our full potential when we’re feeling mentally strong.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success
Amy Morin

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Suffering And The Feeling Of Not Being Whole

Suffering Alone
Source of Suffering

The root of suffering – the real root of all our problems – is in the mind. That means the place we can address our problems is also in the mind.

Feeling of Not Being Whole

So many of our problems arise because we feel cut off from something we need. We do not feel whole and therefore turn expectantly toward other people for the qualities we imagine missing in ourselves. All of the problems of the world, from one person’s anxiety to warfare between nations, can be traced to this feeling of not being whole.

The Truly Rich Person

The truly rich person is the one who has a satisfied mind. The affluence of satisfaction comes from wisdom, not from external things. If you are truly free from the mind of attachment, you’ll see that nothing really belongs to you in the first place.

When the Chocolate Runs Out: Mindfulness & Happiness
When the Chocolate Runs Out: Mindfulness & Happiness

Lama Thubten Yeshe

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How Can Understanding Our Mind Transform Us?

Mind

Accept Yourself

As soon as you accept yourself as you are, you begin to transform.

Examine Your Mind

When negativity in your mind arises, instead of being afraid of it or pushing it away, you should examine it more closely. Meditation helps you understand the mind and put it in order.

The mind is very powerful. Therefore, it requires firm guidance. But be reasonable with yourself – and don’t ever think it’s too late.

Pilot Your Mind with Wisdom

Just as a powerful jet plane needs a good pilot, the pilot of your mind should be the wisdom that understands its nature.

When the Chocolate Runs Out: Mindfulness & Happiness
When the Chocolate Runs Out: Mindfulness & Happiness

Lama Thubten Yeshe

 

 


Lama Thubten Yeshe
Lama Thubten Yeshe
1935-1984

. Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive
. Wikipedia

Thubten Yeshe was a Tibetan lama who, while exiled in Nepal, co-founded Kopan Monastery (1969) and the Foundation for the Preservation of the Mahayana Tradition (1975). He followed the Gelug tradition, and was considered unconventional in his teaching style. He wrote several books.

Lama Yeshe was born near the Tibetan town of Tolung Dechen, but was sent to Sera Monastery in Lhasa at the age of six. He received full ordination at the age of 28 from Kyabje Ling Rinpoche.

Books Written By Lama Thubten Yeshe Include:

 

How Do Love & Compassion Manifest In Helping Others?

Love and Compassion

Compassion is a verb.
…..Thich Nhat Hanh

Love and compassion appear as selfless service. Yet in love we do not serve the other, we serve “us.”

Love’s communion brings us together in a whole. Compassion does not see the world’s pain and sorrow as other – it is shared, it is ours.

When we allow our shared vulnerability and humanness, love and compassion are as natural as our breath, and without hesitation we act to help.

The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace


The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace
Jack Kornfield

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