It is quite impossible to unite happiness with a yearning for what we don’t have. Happiness has all that it wants, and resembling the well-fed, there shouldn’t be hunger or thirst.
It’s easy to set conditions for happiness, to tell ourselves: ‘I’ll be happy when’ – tying our happiness to a time down the road when such and such might happen, and thus ruining our chances for happiness here and now.
Instead of yearning for more, better, or someday, we can shine a light on the present – the only place where we can actually experience happiness.
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